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[quote=Anonymous]Former new girl here.
I grew up moving around  tons, so I was frequently the new kid. Please don't make your kids go to parties they don't want to go to to teach them kindness or whatever you want to call it.
The kid knows. The kid always knows, no matter how friendly you make your child be. I always knew.

No one wants, pity guests or pity friends.

Making your child go is more for you so you can pat yourself on the back for being what you think is a good parent.

OP, your daughter is old enough to decide if the party sounds like something she wants to attend ( please spare me the mean girl assumptions because all of us even as adults decide if we want to go to a party based on how fun it sounds  etc)

I would have a talk with her about the kind of people she hangs around with and how they treat others, and if she would want to be treated that way , thinking for herself etc. Those are tools she needs not forced kindness. You won't be able to force her to go to every party or be friends with everyone as she ages, but teaching her how to choose her friends wisely and thinking for herself, etc will serve her will and last longer than the days of forced playmates.[/quote]

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