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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And people on the other thread wonder why I say people here are whiners and entitled? [/quote]

I'm not asking her to scrub toilets. I've asked her to help prep up dinner because I'm unable. Wow, clearly you've never been in a situation where you need some physical assistance.[/quote]

[b]Well, I certainly hope your DH is stepping in and doing all the stuff you were expecting his mother to help with since he thinks it's now not her job to help with anything.  Continue working from home and just put headphones on when working and don't take them off if she starts talking to you, just reply "I'm working right now and can't talk" and keep going.  Don't take out the garbage, don't do the dishes, nothing you aren't supposed to be doing as you recover.  DH can pick up the slack and host his mommy[/b].[/quote]

Absofuckinglutely!

THIS.

People, she isn't hosting family, she specifically asked her MIL (or her husband did, whatever) to come and help while she IS ON CRUTCHES WITH 2 CHILDREN.  I don't know if none of you have ever used crutches, but I have and you CAN'T CARRY ANYTHING because you need both hands and arms on the crutches.  Imagine being around your 3 and 1 year old children and not be able to hold anything, carry anything, lean over and pick anything up and walk 4 steps to the table to put it on it.  Seriously.  She can't pick up the baby and pop him on the diaper table, nothing.

I'd sit in your bedroom and stay put, with door closed, working.  Even when she brings kids home, she can deal with them while she cooks. (yeah, have fun with that, Grandma, it's much easier to prep without helpers, but whatever).  Then when your husband gets his a$$ home, HE can step and fetch it while you sit at the table and have things handed to you.  You can sit between your 3 year old and the baby in the highchair and feed and supervise them, which is very helpful, and the able bodied people who don't have crutches can get stuff, bring it to you, clear off table, wash dishes, etc.

I had surgery and used crutches for 6 weeks - my husband was home for 1 week, then my mother came for 2 weeks, then I functioned on my own for 3 weeks but I had NO KIDS.  And still, I couldn't make breakfast and then carry it to the effin' table, and forget about carrying a coffee cup.  Seriously, having crutches is just horrible.  (never mind the pain from the surgery and the healing, I'm just talking about the stupid crutches)

Also, OP, here's a trick - get a dining room or kitchen chair and put your knee on that and slide it around everywhere you go - walk with good leg, move bad leg forward resting on chair.  BOOM! No crutches, you can carry stuff, only problem is when you encounter stairs.  It will make a WORLD of difference you can (gasp) carry your coffee cup or your breakfast, not both together because you still need a hand to move chair and steady the chair/bad leg combo.

Now, go sit on your bum and don't move.  If your husband doesn't get dishes done, they don't get done tonight.  Period. I'm serious.  If he doesn't automatically do this stuff because you are LAID UP then you can discuss it or you can just leave it - either way you are FORBIDDEN by me from doing it!

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