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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm working remotely on a limited schedule due to doc appts. and PT and trying to log as many hours as I can so I can bring in some money and every single day she sits there and yaps and yaps. I have tried to tell her I could be more attentive to a conversation if we can take a lunch break together or whatever but she just disregards what I say. She's the kind of person who can talk nonstop about herself. Then I don't log the work hours I have said I'm going to do. We have a small house so aside from sitting on my bed with my computer in my lap, which is what I'm doing now, I can't escape because if I sit at the table, she thinks I'm on break. 
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This part needs to stop.  Get a desk in your room, wear headphones (even w/o music), whatever.  When she starts talking to you, just say, "I'm sorry, I can't talk now, I have to work."  Put on the heahdphones or stick in the earplugs.  And then ignore her.  Because you do actually need to work.

As for the work, I don't get why people are being so hard on you.  It's not rocket science to think that someone who is staying with you while you recover from surgery should be helpful.  That said, she clearly doesn't want to be all that helpful, so just adjust.  I agree with stocking up at TJ's or Costco so you have stuff that just needs to be heated in the oven.  Not totally economical, but better than takeout.  Stop paying for takeout after you do that.  While she goes to pick up the kids, maybe take a break from work to do basic dinner prep--cut veggies, defrost something, etc.  And don't do the stuff that she doesn't do if it's not something you're supposed to be doing--just ignore it and then tell your husband that it needs doing.  You need to rest your leg so it can heal.  So do that.  Make a list of everything that needs to be done that day.  Post it on the fridge like a to-do list.  Cross off the things that you do, and leave the rest for someone else.  Seriously.

My mom came to stay with me after I had my babies, and she was awesome.  No, she wasn't my servant, but she was so helpful--laundry, shopping, cleaning, meal prep...it made life so much easier.  I didn't feel entitled to it, I just thought how great it was to have such a supportive mother.  Taking care of each other is what families are supposed to do.  I'm sorry that your MIL isn't being helpful.  [/quote]

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