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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update. Today my husband had a sit-down with my parents so he could air his feelings. He feels that they wronged him by... failing to hug him more, or something. He says they've not communicated with him about this issue enough. When he wasn't yelling at them he was speaking in the most condescending tone I've ever heard. I haven't said a word to him since we left their house and I'm done. I'm so terribly sad that I'm going to be alone again - I waited until my late 30s to marry - but I can't imagine ever feeling warmth for him again after watching him treat my loving parents that way. I already feel lonely. [/quote]

OP, let me be honest with you: why, why, why would you bring your DH to your parents' house when you know he is hurting so much and has lashed out with them?

I don't think either of you is thinking of acting rationally right now.  This is not the time to divorce.  You're seriously think I g of divorcing your devoted DH over his tone?!? Come ON.  You guys need a LOT of time and space to heal and rebuild your friendship.  You need a long, long break from your parents.  You need to be your own family unit without them for a while.    It really sounds like they are way too involved in your lives.  [/quote]

My parents are completely faultless. Also, my husband is known for having a raging temper. I didn't want to go over there but my parents insisted it would be healthier for him to have an opportunity to speak, and that we would never be able to move on as long as he had to "hold it in." They really took one for the team today.

Did I mention my mother is fighting cancer? That's right. He shouted down a woman with cancer. For the second time in a week - he did it on the phone last Sunday. She totally held her own, but... cancer.[/quote]
He sounds horribly immature OP. And I'm sure that didn't just start with your infertility troubles somi don't hold out much hope that that will change. I hope you focus on your parents right now- you can do better than this guy![/quote]

I am 41 years old and infertile. Nobody is going to be breaking down my door to carry me away. [/quote]

Bullsh**!  You sound like a really good person, OP.  Kind, understanding, sensible, mature, giving-- like your parents, it seems.  As many PPs have said, there are good men out there who would feel lucky to have you.  You deserve better.  [/quote]

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