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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP went to college and pretended to be an ambitious alpha woman — and when she sank her claws into a rich schmuck she drops the 'lean in' aspirations. The ole bait & switch. Happens all the time.[/quote]

People's priorities change as life changes. When you are in college and the early career years of course you see yourself as an alpha male/alpha woman. But then you grow up a bit and realize that you are not defined by your career and their is more to life than work. Not everyone grows and changes of course - some people stay exactly the same.  But for those ambitious types it can be tough to balance parenting/family life with a thriving career. Many women can be the "best" at both so they need to choose one. This is not bait and switch, it is life.
I remember long conversations with my then fiancé about how we would divide childcare and housekeeping so we could both work - oh we had such plans of partnership. But wait! Two years and one baby later, the old bait and switch. No sharing household duties at all. The man never even took out the trash, made the bed or put his laundry away. During the week he couldn't or wouldn't miss happy hour or whatever it was so that I could get to my job at 6:00pm. I wound up asking a family member to help so that I could work in the evenings. On the weekends he also did his own thing - didn't spend time me baby and me and left all of the housework to me.
Eventually he suggested that I quit working altogether since he made enough money to support the family - it didn't make sense to him to have to worry about childcare and household chores since he was such a high earner. So yeah, bait and switch. Guys do that too.
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