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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would guess many of you know quite a few couples who, if not APs, were at least uncomfortably close to it and are now totally happy couples with nice families. I mean, it's not like people are going to go around talking about it or laying it all out there. Not even necessarily out of shame but just because the genesis of a decade+ long relationship with children is really not relevant to anything going on right now. So, you can believe that all of these relationships crash and burn horribly with terrible outcomes for all involved, but especially the ones who chose to leave their spouses for each other, but I would bet there's a rather sizable but quiet population of well-functioning couples who were in this situation.[/quote]

Well if one of them has children from before the current marriage, it becomes obvious whether there was infidelity or not by the way they talk about things. You may not know for sure but you know if it's a possibility. So overall I disagree with what you're saying.[/quote]

I'm not sure what you mean. I know people with stepkids and could tell you zero about when or where or how their relationship started.[/quote]

Very few people knew we were blended. People assumed all five kids were just "our kids".  My step kids and my bios lived with us full time. We had a child  together as well. My step kids referred to me as "my mom". They called each other "my brother/my sister". They never use the term "step". Our kids look a lot alike. We looked and functioned just like any other family. The only people who knew all five were not biologically mine were very close friends and family. [/quote]

Were you an AP? Very unusual for step kids to take to a step mom so well in that situation. Very unusual for kids to live with their dad full-time after a divorce. This anecdote reads like an exception that proves the rule if anything.[/quote]

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