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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]they are your sisters kids, right? What does SHE say? if she is ok with it then hell with what he says-( I'm Muslim so from a Mothers word is law culture regardless)- but in this situation they are her biological offspring and her word IS law. You are doing a wonderful thing by helping your nephews, some of the people on here have no family values at all. Ignore them-

have you spoken with your nephews, are they excited by the idea that they can go to college and have a different life or are they clueless/sattisfied with a working class life. It is getting increasingly difficult to live a middle class life without a college degree, the best they can hope for is to be working class and demographic trends point to working class=working poor. Who would want that for young people with their whole lives ahead of them? No amount of Trump speeches is going to bring those jobs or wages back- they are gone, as Steve Jobs famously pints out to Obama.

If Your nephews aren't really into this idea- be prepared will you be ok if they squander this opportunity and the $$ you are spending or will you or your own kids resent it?

You and your husband are good people.
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Thank you for all of that, plus acknowledging how impossible it is to make a living w/o a credential. They are eager to get out of the house and out from the control of their step-father, but my husband and I aren't around them more than once or twice a month. It's crunch time for college prep and if the adults they live with don't buy into our college prep advice, it either won't happen period, or it will be squandered. For ex., say my sister put her foot down and agreed to accept SAT prep and math tutor. Ok... what's to say she or her husband will actually make the boys go? It's not a wishy-washy thing to prepare boys like them for college. For every anecdote of a working class kid who made it there are 99 who don't.

It's really tough to get through to kids when the parents don't see big dreams for their kids as realistic. And the husband might subconsciously not want them to become educated elitists, or rise above what he thinks is possible for him to afford for his children, etc.[/quote]

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