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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BIL makes decent money without going to college, but your nephews are doomed to be deadbeats?

Your title complains that BIL doesn't have money for the nephews college - why are you not complaining about your sister or their dad (the two adults biologically related and primarily responsible for them).

I think you should be pissed more at your sister than your BIL.  Still, there's nothing for you to do here.  They don't want your help.  It's unfortunate because you sound as if you are attempting to be kind, but they don't want your help.[/quote]

[b]BIL is a layoff away from being bankrupt.[/b] He has no leverage to get raises. He hates his job. The 1990s =/= 2017-2020

Yes, my sister certainly knows how to pick 'em. FYI, when it comes to FAFSA and college aid, *all* parents inc. step-parents are responsible.[/quote]

I hate to break it to you, but a lot of upper middle class people are a layoff away from being bankrupt.  You are so in love with "the research."  The research shows that most people across all classes are over-leveraged and don't have enough savings.  What allows most upper middle class people to live their lives is their income.

You talk as if your sister and BIL are trailer park trash.  They have a HHI that is pretty high -- even for the regional average -- on one income.  That's not bad.

Your tone is horrible.  For all of your education and class, you seem to have horrible people skills.  You don't make people feel like losers when you want them to take your advice.  That puts them on the defensive.  Also, most people don't like to feel like they're accepting charity from inlaws.  Do you really not understand that?

Also, you haven't mentioned anything about your nephews.  Have they expressed an interest in college?  Have they gone to the guidance counselor?  The internet?  There are SAT and college resources online.  You don't say anything about that except that you think they will turn into deadbeats, which signals to me that neither one of them are interested in college.  If that is the case, then maybe a trade school or a vocational school is a better option.

I actually think the high dropout rate in college these days isn't because we aren't doing enough to prepare kids.  I think that there are a lot of kids for whom a traditional 4-year college isn't appropriate.  I wish we wouldn't make trades seem like a subpar career choice.  [/quote]

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