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OT, but I have a question: Why do you think they are going to turn into their biological father? It sounds like their mom is a reliable presence in their lives, their step-father is gainfully employed and is dutifully supporting his children and step-children (if not providing for their future education), their aunt and uncle are thriving. It sounds like their father is the (extreme) outlier here. Why would they end up like him as opposed to one of the other more successful people in their lives? Why do you look at them and see their father? That's a mighty big millstone you've placed around their necks.[/quote]

For the sake of transparency: My sister is ignorant and fairly lazy. She would love for them to have a better life than her, but isn't interested in learning how to make that happen - which research shows is a common trait amongst working class parents. As in, parents like her are pretty hands off, they let the school handle the education; talking to guidance counselor about courses, reading college preparation parenting books, signing kid up for SAT prep, securing a math tutor are all foreign concepts. BIL isn't lazy, but he's also ignorant and should be seeing a shrink. Me and my husband helping is seen as an attack on his man of the house "power" - the guy is unstable. It would be like me and my husband telling my BIL, who's an MD, to stop offering health advice if he noticed something, you know.[/quote]

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