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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG!  People are coming up with every reason in the world of unlikely rare scenarios as to why the guy IS paying $3500 a month, for one child, since infancy, who he hasn't seen in years.  Go ahead and believe what you want to believe OP, you are getting a reality check here from people who know. What he is telling you is a lie. Believe it if you want to believe it, but you are willfully ignoring huge red flags.

I ignored a major red flag item of my then-fiance. Not even remotely NEAR what you are seeing here.  One of those things where I was like wow, this is a great guy but he has some moral shortcomings?  20 years later, guess what he is?  A dead beat dad.  And in my heart, I had evidence he wasn't a good guy.  I believed what I wanted to believe and I am paying the price. [/quote]

It would be a pretty stupid thing to lie about since it's so easily verifiable.  Which, is exactly why it's really not worth wasting a ton of bandwidth over because all OP has to do is ask to see the cancelled checks and she'll know.  If he can show a few months worth of cancelled checks then that part is resolved.  [/quote]

It's really not verifiable. If he doesn't show her checks, she can't check anywhere else. And he can always say "We've only been dating 4 months, I don't feel comfortable discussing the ins and outs of child support and showing you my financials." After that her hands are tied.[/quote]

He's already opened up to her about it.  It's just a few checks so at that point I would feel comfortable concluding that he's lying.  He doesn't have to give the checks to OP, he can print them out for her to look at and then take them back.[/quote]

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