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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you saying it is not your kid blah blah blah.

How do you feel about step kids?  Do you really feel that a person cannot  love a child who is not biologically related to them?  What about adopted kids?

This is a terrible screwed up situation but OP has loved this child for almost 3 years.  If you have kids can you really imagine walking away from your child?  What if the hospital showed up at your door and told you your child was switched at birth and the kid you have been raising isn't your child.  Would it be so easy to walk away?

Whether he stays in the life of the child or not OP will always be thinking about the child.

OP whatever you decide you should get some therapy.  It is going to be tough. [/quote]

What about step kids? What does this situation have to do with step kids? You seem to be forgetting that people are different. Some are more open to parenthood through adoption or donation, some are less. Some willingly marry partners with children from previous relationships, some see it as a deal breaker. I can't imagine walking away from my child. But my child's blood line is written all over him--he is the spitting image of my father. Comparing their photos taken at the same age gives me pause. I don't know what I would do or how I would feel if the genetic tie between me and my child was ambiguous. I think it's up to OP to figure this out. In any case, nobody is in the position to judge his decisions. It is very unfair to throw the adoptive families into the mix, because this is not the situation we're discussing.

Will OP be curious about the child? Of course. It's normal. But as life goes on, and OP raises his family, the daily grind will take over. His genetic children will take over and fill the void in ways he never thought possible. Nobody implies it will be easy, but walking away now sounds like a sane thing to do, considering the legal and moral aspects of the situation.[/quote]

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