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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just don't understand why people are telling OP to wait until he definitely cheats.  Isn't the goal to confront before he cheats? Wouldn't it be way more difficult to reconcile after he has sex with someone?[/quote]

[b]It's better if she knows his intentions and character[/b]. Confronting him isn't going to solve everything and make him stop.  Most likely, he'll just tell her some lame excuses and be better at hiding it. [/quote]

Newsflash.  Every man has a strong desire to have sex with other women.  Most men, at some point (or many points) in the marriage, will feel an incredible urge to cheat.  I am sure some women can relate to this, not trying to say it's only men.  Most men have it in them to cheat.  This isn't some character issue, it's a matter of a combination of opportunity plus sexual frustration plus aging and feeling the opportunities slip away.

This isn't a knock on OP, but I can imagine they aren't scorching the sheets with three little ones at home.  This is the time most men cheat.  Because her sex drive is probably zapped from taking care of little ones, she can't even relate to the level of sexual frustration her husband might be going through.   Again, not blaming OP.  This is the totally normal issue in marriages with young kids and its also the time I have seen the majority of my friends cheat.

The reason why most men lie when they are caught is because they still love their wives and families and want to be married, but they also have an intense desire for extra-marital sex and that compounds when the kids are young and they become second fiddles.  These aren't exit affairs.

All signs point to he hasn't taken the big step yet and signed up for the paid membership.  It's probably fantasy material, his looking at a real person he could theoretically sleep with if he just. were. to. sign. up.  Never underestimate the ability of a man to make a horrible decision with his penis.[/quote]

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