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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]sorry, but sah with babies and toddlers is absolutely harder than sah with ES and older kids. Are you kidding? Sah with babies and toddlers are constant feeding/diaper changing/potty training/educating/dealing with tantrums/dealing with mess and spit up plus the groceries/laundry/cooking/errands with kids in tow! As a sah parent of an older kid you get the kids it the door (but they can dress themselves and brush their teeth and find their library book and maybe even make their lunch) and then you have hours of freedom! Then you pick them up and drive them to a class or sport where another teacher or coach is in charge of them.

I was a sah and now that my kids are in school I work and it is SO much easier now than it was when I was home with them as babies. Hands down.[/quote]

I don't think anyone would debate that the physical part of caring for babies is harder.

What we are saying is now that our kids are older, in late ES/MS/HS -- the kind of attention/caretaking they need is more involved.

Anyone can change a diaper, or two or four, but reading over your kid's paper and seeing that she has problems with sentence structure, or algebra, or picking up on moods that could signal serious distress -- these are the things we want to be there for and not farm out to someone else.

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I agree. So many working parents are checked out of reality. I was. So tired coming home and only having 2 hours with all 3 kids wanting attention. And all I wanted was dinner because I barely ate all day and spent an hour in traffic and was late for soccer pick up. There wasn't enough time in the day to get a handle on who was doing what, who is struggling, truly investing time to each. Now we have family dinners, I am more relaxed and listen to them. Bedtime is much nicer too.  It isn't for everyone. Some people think raising your kids is lame and gladly outsource it. But they wouldn't be happy at home anyway. [/quote]

Beautifully stated. God, I'm so glad I have time for my kids.[/quote]

Not every working parent has the same experience.  I've structured my career that I'm either working from home a few days a week or at home NLT 5pm.

For me quitting my job would be pointless. On days I'm actually at the office I have 4 waking hours with my kids a day and my kids (outside of being IN school) have 1.5hrs while I'm not home.

Additionally,  DH is in sales and when he's not on customer calls, he's working from home.

Nobody thinks raising kids is lame. That's a strange characterization of working parents, but I do hope if makes you all feel better about yourselves. It must be sad to be you.[/quote]

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