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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, lots of haters for female bosses here.

My daughter is a strong independent type. She also likes to lead others. As a child it came off "bossy" as a teen it's called "independence" as an adult it will be called "leadership"

OP, just watch it, nurture it and treat it like any skill. [/quote]
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No one here is hating on female bosses.  We are talking about 5yr olds acting bossy.[/b]  They are not even on the same level here.  Rationalizing that a child can act bossy to other children because they may grow up and be a leader is about as crappy parenting as it gets.   The OP is asking for a few things.  First off, she is apparent her child is like this and that is good.  Her child has obvious good traits but telling her to embrace the way she acts and treats others NOW because "maybe" 20 years down the line it may benefit her?  [b]No one is trying to squash her good traits.  But there are bad ones like telling kids what to do all the time, not listening, not always having empathy for others and throwing a shit fit if she doesn't get her way - should not go under the radar.   There is a way to positively reinforce behavior, not turning her into a narcissist, engaging more people, etc...[/b]

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This is true. I am a 30s something woman with an AWESOME female boss who is fair, kind, and whipsmart.

But my 6 year old DD is close friends with a girl who is like OP's DD.  And you know what? I used to love inviting her over for play dates, but now I dread it because she's exhausting and inevitably, my DD will quietly confide in me something controlling that her friend did, or that she felt terrible because she was excluded because she didn't do what her friend wanted to do at recess.

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