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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, [b]is your DD allowed to get away with this behavior? [/b] Are theirrelevant boundaries that need to be observed in your family?  [/quote]

What?  WTF?  Seriously?

Little girls who are "bossy" are natural leaders. They have terrific, innate leadership skills.  It's not something that she "gets away with." It's something that is a tremendous asset and which she needs to learn to harness to make the world a better place.

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Girls that are bossy are not natural leaders.  Natural leaders take control sometimes yes, but they also listen to others, digest what people are saying around them and come up with better ways to do things.

Bossy girls on the playground always tell other kids what to do, don't listen or care what the other kids want to do or say, always is waiting to get a word in edge-wise, ignores adults, always has a rationale as to why they did something their way (even when they know it is wrong) and then stomp if they don't get their way.

Please don't think that bossy is a positive word.  It has nothing to do with being a leader.  [/quote]

An immature leader is bossy. MANY bossy children turn into leaders, and they have the strength to do what is needed. You seem to be making a leap here that people can't learn and refine their skills.

A bossy child whose parents work with them and who can learn self-control and harnessing their power can and do turn into leaders. But at 8 years old, they aren't going to have those skills yet. Leadership is learned, but there are innate skills (often that manifest as bossy) that can lend to having a personality style well-suited for leading. [/quote]

How do you know that MANY bossy children turn into leaders?  There are leaders in young grades that are not bossy.  There are leaders in youth sports that are not bossy.  [b]They are not synonyms or a one thing leads to another.  [/b]

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Not PP, but you wrote your own answer. There are different kinds of leadership.

People know that the traits that people identify as "bossy" in little girls can be shaped into traits that are identified as "leadership" later on, because they have raised and mentored these girls. I have been a Girl Scout leader and a college instructor and  a coach and a chapter advisor for a sorority. Girls that are bossy usually have a clear vision for a group of people or an organization. If they are smart, extroverted and have some kindness, they can be taught the appropriate social skills to lead that group to great things.  They just need to learn how to do it. [/quote]

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