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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I did not give the actual word because it doesn't matter, and I was hoping you would just trust me that it was offensive and not "oh, he was just being folksy and cute."  According to my child, she met the dad, who said "I didn't know you were a spic."  I'm not asking for a debate about whether or not people who use that word are racists, I'm asking for advice about whether or not to approach a parent used a known offensive term to my child.[/quote]

I would end all playdates.  The mother will know why, even if she doesn't know exactly why.  She knows her husband is a racist asshat, and she'll assume you also found out in some way.

[b]I wouldn't confront them unless called out.[/b]  There's no point trying to educate someone who is so hateful.  I can imagine him half drunk, slurring, wiping his sweaty brow with the rolled up sleeves of his white button down shirt with ring around the collar.  I can think of no circumstance that I'd ever want my kiddo in his presence again.  So, not worth confronting![/quote]

I would be direct with anyone who asked why we steer clear of that family. I'd shut it all down. When I ran into the parents at pick-up or on the playground, I wouldn't attempt to "educate" them. We teach our children about consequences, then pause and wonder when a parent does something atrocious?!!! It's a vile term. Daddy Asshat doesn't need to be educated about this. He knows, and would hear directly from me why I would be keeping my child from him. Mama Asshat would also be burdened with the consequence. Zero Tolerance.

"We don't keep company with racists." Done.

Shame on him. Look at what he's cost his own child. And you're right, OP, the actual word doesn't matter. You made it clear it was a widely recognizable slur. That's sufficient.
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This is why the country is so divided. Nobody is willing to just discuss stuff with each other. So now this entire family will be accused of racism, the daughter loses a friend (which doesn't hurt the dad, btw, it hurts the daughter), and all that happened was he said Hispanic and the girl misheard as 'spic.

[/quote]Lol...THIS is why the country is divided?  You are so funny and so sad.  From the way you now seem to know exactly what was said with such certainty despite the reporting of the person who heard it and the fact that you think the problem is minority's perception of racism rather than the actual racism that happens all the time.  You hear this story and feel badly for....the DAD?  Smh.[/quote]

That is not what I said at all.[/quote]

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