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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp here if anything I'm more apt to tell him what's good for the goose is good for the gander and if that's how he wants things to be, I might just not rebuff the next guy who hits on me by saying "Thanks, I'm flattered but I'm married." I actually think if an agreement like that could be reached between spouses that occasionally each one has a dalliance if they want but the family unit remains the main priority, it could actually make for a pretty nice setup. [/quote]

But as it is much easier for a woman to find a sex partner, why would a husband go along with this?[/quote]
For the same reason as the woman would - not to lose at least half the time with kids, half of marital assets, nice house, great neighborhood, social status..[/quote]

Great.  Agree to her getting plowed by other guys and thinking about her next meeting with them to keep up appearances.  [/quote]
Children, money, property, assets - not the same as appearances.  Why take 50% when you can have access to 100%? And it's not like you have to stay celibate, either.  Much better to be civilized about these things. [/quote]

Yet when I read about open marriages and swinging, the percentages of married couple with these arrangements is very low, albeit in a county the size of the US even if it was 5%, that's a lot of people.  Tells me that it sound great discussing on a forum, but real life is not nearly as easy.[/quote]

Two issues with your statement:

The amount of people who ADMIT to an open marriage may be 5% but reality is probably higher.
And, Americans are notoriously sexually prim and proper. Just because your average American couple won't indulge in an open marriage doesn't mean plenty of others aren't doing just that.

The problem with straying outside the marriage is really only if it's one sided. If one partner is giving their all exclusively and the other isn't, that's obviously an unfair imbalance that will create strife. But if both agree that they enjoy being married, love the family unit, and want to preserve those and lifestyle but seek a little excitement from others from time to time, well, what doesn't sound good about that?[/quote]

Probably much lower but a dysfunctional lifestyle is just that, it usually blows up. If you have kids it beyond wrong, no different than having an addiction or other problem.  If you have kids you have a obligation to be a role model, and teach good values. That means living that way too.  Stay single and date if you want that kind of thing.[/quote]

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