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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the same poster from a few pages back who said my "W" school sophomore was ok with the stress level.

I'm responding now to the point about intense academics v. everything else that kids need/want to do.  I agree with the point that it's crazy and counterproductive to expect kids to do absolutely everything to the highest level.  You need to set your priorities, in consultation with your kid.  My kid knows I care most about his school work.  He does other stuff, but when it's crunch time he knows that he is going to half ass his way through non school work commitments and he has my blessing to do that.  He even has my blessing to half ass his way through school assignments in classes where he can afford to get a less than great grade at that moment.

I don't think high school is too early to figure out how to prioritize your obligations.  And part of our job as parents is to help our kids figure out how to make those calculations.[/quote]

So if your child grew up playing soccer and baseball and wanted to play on the high school teams, what would you say? Would you say he still has to take high caliber classes first because academics comes first? You can't really half ass sports or theater. Rehearsals and practices are mandatory or you are off the team/production.  So do you tell your child that they can't do the activities to take the highest classes you want him to take? What if he said he only wanted to take 1 AP course instead of 3 so he can play the sports and not feel overwhelmed. Would you let him? My guess is no. So instead the poor kid has to take the classes YOU want him to take to play the sports HE wants to play. And that equates to stress, sleep deprivation, and an internal hatred. 
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My kid neither wanted to, nor was talented enough, to play high school sports.  So we didn't have to have that conversation.  But we've had other conversations about things he's wanted to do.  Fortunately for me, he WANTS to take the AP classes, largely enjoys them, and hasn't hit irreconcilable conflicts between school work and other interests (yet).  We'll cross that bridge when we get to it.  Again, fortunately for me and my kid, we have a relationship in which he knows that he can express his needs and desires and that his parents will listen to him.  We are a team -- I don't dangle the stuff he wants in life over his head and insist that he do my bidding.

Meanwhile, though, you've done a pretty thorough job of projecting your own issues and suppositions on to me.  [/quote]

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