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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here,

Very interesting how the responses here are basically a split of 1) no way, and 2) go for it and don't ask for anything extra, with just a few 3) encouraging we ask for more money in some form.

To address some of the questions:

-I do work and travel but my parents are nearby and help out when we are both unavailable which does already happen
-I do think this is supposed to be considered an opportunity that will create advancement for him after.  This project will be followed by a domestic long term project which will mean little or no travel after for at least 3 years
-DH has mixed feelings, he is very concerned about how it will impact our kids, especially our 5 yr DD
-The cheating thing doesn't concern me.  We have been married 15 years, since right after college and I completely trust him and we have a great marriage
-His company is American but global obviously

So far the thread has me leaning towards encouraging him to go and perhaps getting more help at home probably in the form of cleaning and maybe a few days help with kids.  My parents are very willing to help and have said this is something they would be very supportive of.

I guess initially I just thought it was odd that they would ask something like this, which was never part of the job when he took it (only limited domestic travel or maybe a 2 weeks trip oversees) and not offer something substantial.  As for special skill, he sort of does have this going on as he has significant technical experience and they are looking to increase that expertise in advance of a very high profile domestic project following it.  He's essentially going there to get hands on experience to leverage on the project back here after.

I do agree that this sort of thing could be great for his resume but I also think it could lead to lucrative but similar opportunities in the future.  I have pretty limited interest in being an ex-Pat, especially in Asia.

I also think it's interesting as one PP said that a mom would never consider or likely even be asked to do anything like this.

I do appreciate all the feedback.  I will likely encourage him to go and maybe try to ask for them to consider in the stipend that we have new expenses at home as a result of this that will need to be covered.

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One additional point I left out, DH is considering asking if the five months is truly necessary?  He feels he can get what he needs out of this in less time, maybe 2-3 months and is considering suggesting this and maybe compromising.  He is desirable for this specifically but we are not naive and know there are others who could likely do this if he says no.[/quote]
If someone else could go, let them? Why not?[/quote]

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