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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Oh first, you need to realize that this is your child's grandmother and your DH's mother.  That is an important relationship for both of them to have regardless of how you feel about her.[/b]  It doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with her but it means that you need to leave them to have their own.

Honestly, as a dog lover, I would have probably pushed the dog off also.  We don't allow our dogs on the furniture (and never understand why others do) so my instinct would have been to correct the dog while not even thinking about what I was doing.

I am also positive after having dogs with torn ACLs and hip dysplasia that your dog should be trained gently to not jump up onto any furniture.  Do this now so that no further damage is done (which can be done simply getting on and off furniture) but also for post op when your dog should not be doing this at all.[/quote]

If MIL is abusive and crazy (and she is!), then it is an important relationship for the grandchildren to avoid. We don't spend much time with my abusive, mentally ill MIL for exactly that reason. She wrecked my DH's childhood and young adulthood.  He has nothing good to say about her as a parent.  Why on earth would we allow her to have a major role in our children's lives?[/quote]

All we know is she pushed a dog off the couch. If a dog can't take the two foot drop from the couch to the floor, the dog should not be on the couch. Forcefully pushing due to anger is wrong, and kind of violent, but a nudge is not and OP seems a little hysterical so I'm not sure which occurred. We do not know the MIL is crazy. I have a hunch that these two women always hated each other and this has nothing to do with the dog. [/quote]

However, my MIL is a petulant brat with a probable undiagnosed personality disorder. At one point, she was sitting on the couch where we normally allow the dog to sit (when permitted by the vet) [b]and our dog jumped up to sit with her.[/b] To be clear, it's the chaise part of our sectional sofa and the dog did not crowd the MIL[b] but simply wanted to come up and cuddle. I got up as quickly as I could and very firmly stated "do not push her!", but MIL shoved her backwards off the couch,[/b] hard. My dog is now unable to put any weight on her back leg, so it obviously did damage.

She got up as quickly as she could and firmly stated "do not push her!", but MIL shoved her backwards off the couch.  She said this as the MIL was in the middle of the action. OP could tell it was about to happen which is why she stood up. OP did not say this was discussed before hand, she told her while MIL was reacting to the dog. [/quote]

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