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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them. [/quote]

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.[/quote]

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread :mrgreen: OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.[/quote]

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty."  For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful.  But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week.  Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think![/quote]

[b]You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate.  Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face.  You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women.  It really is not that difficult to understand.  You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.  [/b]

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Oh the irony. You're the ugliest person in this thread. And I'm not being a hypocrite because I think it's okay to say the things you think in your head out loud to the closest person to you.

OP, ignore these DCUM hags who take any opportunity to jump down someone's throat (usually females' throats... ironically). If you have a healthy relationship with DH you should absolutely feel able to be open enough to express your opinions, no matter how "petty" the subject matter is. Your DH is probably the only person you can express these "petty" opinions with without feeling judged yourself. The character attacks just because he disagrees with you is hurtful, so the next time it happens don't let your emotions turn it into a heated disagreement and say to him very calmly and clearly "hey, we're on the same team. Is it really necessary for you to say x about me just because I'm expressing how I feel about y to you? I want to be able to express my opinion about anything to you without feeling constricted. You are free to disagree with me, but I would appreciate that same respect."[/quote]

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