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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In our very sexist society, women are still selling looks and fertility on the marriage market. Men are selling their ability to be a provider and to succeed at a career. At 30-35, women are hitting the end of their fertility and their looks are (just a little) starting to slide. Men are just starting to hit their top earning years.  Women rule the dating world from 15-30.  Men rule the dating world from 35 to death. From 30 to 35, power is about even.[/quote]

How is this sexist? Women contribute to this just as much as men. If women dropped the need to find a man who will "put a big rock" on her finger and have a big law job, etc. etc. and instead only evaluated men based on looks these dynamics would change. It's female hypergamy for $$$ and status that create this situation. And don't tell me it's because men hold women down from being capable of making a good living. If we looked at the Meg Whitman's of the world, they rarely marry down. Men win, because men are easier to please. [b]A sunny disposition and a tight ass that looks good in yoga pants is enough for us.[/b] Women need to let go of their obsession with magna cum laude and white collar jobs.[/quote]

That's not true at all.  Men from upper class families usually marry their own.  Men with high educational achievement usually marry similar women. Power couples, not Cinderella stories, are still the norm, because assortative mating. [/quote]

Yes, and men from upper class families are, by definition, not the majority of men out there. I know DCUM world tends to think that 30-40% of men are 6'2 and landed gentry that came over on the Mayflower and pull down 6 figure incomes. But, only 10% of men, IF THAT, fall into that narrow category. I'm talking much more about what matters to the people in the middle of the bell curve. And yes, here men are more forgiving on status/income than are women. A woman who has a 4-year college degree (don't think Vanderbilt, think Valparaiso,) and makes 60k a year is not going to be willing to marry a guy who is an electrician (even if he makes 75-80k) and has a 2 year degree from Ivy Tech. She still wants a guy who went to a 4-year college and makes 100k (or something far more than her 60k). Conversely, a guy who makes 100k selling insurance who graduated from Indiana University will marry a hairdresser who has no college degree if she looks like Kim Kardashian and ins't a b*tch.[/quote]

I dunno, do you have stats on this? Everything I have read says that people all over the income spectrum tend to marry within their own range of income/educational achievement.  I.e., the guy who went to Indiana will marry a girl he met at Indiana.[/quote]

In fairness, I do not have stats to present. This is more impressionistic. And, I don't disagree with you that a guy wouldn't marry a girl at IU. But if he's doing so, I don't think it's because he's ashamed of marrying a girl without a 4-year degree. Or that he somehow values her pedigree. It's more convenience and likelihood of running in the same circles. A lot of what I'm saying is more about the market for dating more generally. Also for 2nd marriages. Men have relatively simple demands. They want to be attracted to her physically and they want her to have a sunny disposition and to like sex. If she never completed that Art History degree at Sarah Lawrence he isn't going to leave her over it. But women who have a law degree or practice medicine wouldn't be caught dead introducing a mechanic to their friends. Here's a thought experiment.[b] Male doctors frequently marry female nurses. How often to female doctors marry male nurses? Male schoolteachers?[/b] See what I mean.[/quote]

Not saying that your overall point doesn't hold some validity but I'm guessing the fact that there are a lot more female nurses than male nurses & female teachers than male teachers factors into this, as well.[/quote]

Google bloomberg marriage by occupation. I'm on my phone so I can't link it but the status by occupation when it comes to marinate is a one way street. While there is a huge increase in assertive mating, men are still way more open minded thatn women when it comes to money & status at all levels of labor market. [/quote]

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