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I could easily work and support myself and kids on my salary as a GS-15 WAH Fed with benefits and flexibility.

He makes a lot more than me, but I'd survive with my $175k/salary.  
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It is hard for somebody that stopped working at 27-32 years old to him back in the workforce at 45+.[/b]  Really hard.  Don't fool yourself--especially with this economy.  This is why it's wise to downscale if you have the luxury--2-3 days per week or telework, but I'd be careful about just quitting with 60-years of life left.[/quote]

I had a lot of SAHM friends when we had babies and nearly all were back at work within 5 years.  Yes, staying out for 15+ years is a different ballgame but those people are probably not expecting to jump back on the same career track.

My mom quit work as a secretary when she got married in the late 1960s and went back to work 16 years later.  Despite having to completely learn how to work a computer, she was still hireable as an admin and ended up doing that for over 20 yrs before retiring.  Life is long and circumstances and desires change.  Not taking the time you want with your babies for a couple years because you worry about your employability 15 years from now seems a sad way to live.[/quote]

Your mom was much younger when she re-entered the workforce and the economy for jobs for older people not good.  I know several women that got to 40s, husband left and they didn't get the windfall they thought they would.  In fact, they lost the house.  The husband only had to pay mortgage for two years---then she had to sell or buy him out.  Not pretty.[/quote]

Really?  You know "several" women in this exact situation?  How coincidental!  I have a few unhappy anecdotes I could share about dual-income couples who wound up in horrendously acrimonious divorces.  Would my sharing those stories mean that all dual-income couples will wind up that way?

Your anecdotes are just that - yours.  They mean nothing.  [/quote]

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