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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell him in no uncertain terms that his actions are making you feel like a piece of meat & that they are turning you OFF to sex completely.

Stress that you don't enjoy being grabbed and rubbed on at any given moment.

You need to feel emotionally desired as well as physically desired.[/quote]

If my wife told me that, the not wanting to be rubbed or grabbed would be clear enough. But I'd have a hard time figuring out exactly what "feeling emotionally desired" means. I mean, I generally can understand the concept, but it's so squishy and vague, I'd have no way of knowing when her lack of that feeling was because of things I was or wasn't doing versus when it was just some arbitrary decision or lack of effort on her part. Those are goal posts that are pretty easy to move, and it's a concept that's pretty susceptible to being used as a pretext. [/quote]

You'd have a hard time figuring out what she means, because everything the OP is saying about this situation is exactly what a wife cheating on her husband says.   It's basically all gaslighting and blame shifting.

OP never answered PP's question about whether or not she was cheating (or has cheated in the past) on her husband.

Since OP is still in the thread, answering questions, it's obvious that OP is a cheater.[/quote]

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