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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

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To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.[/quote]

What are you keeping "private"?[/quote]

Would you be ok if your spouse put a wire on you during girls night out?  Are you allowed to have a private conversation about your ups and downs, that sometimes involve your spouse?[/quote]

Of course, why not. Geez, are you so trashy that your girls night out can't be observed by somebody that loves you.

My H and I discuss our ups and downs, so he would not be hearing anything new.

Next time you go out maybe you can limit your trashy ways by imagining that you are being recorded. [/quote]

NP. How can you go on with no privacy whatsoever? A conversation doesn't need to be "trashy" to be private :roll: [/quote]

So I am not the PP but one of the PP's on the 'no secrets' side of the argument. I do have private moments. He doesn't snoop, but we have exclusive access, and I wouldn't be embarrassed if he heard a conversation where I talked about him or a text. Giving someone trust and access isn't the same as that person using it.

The same with these 'confidences' from friends. If my friend tells me about a yeast infection am I going to tell my husband? Probably not, but I refuse philosophically to say that I would keep something from him. Because I think that would erode my marriage. It might not be the same for everyone but that is how it is for us.

Essentially in our house pandora's box is open if anyone wants to look inside, but we trust each other so we're not actively looking through each other's text messages. [/quote]

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