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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are the consequences of this behavior?  Does he have a cell phone, video games, or outside activities that get taken away?  Do you make sure there are no electronics in his bedroom.  Have you take the hinges off his door because he lost privacy?

Because I would never in a million years tolerate that mental/physical abuse you are allowing to take over your home.  You need someone to come into the home, evaluate the entire situation and take over with advice/solutions.  A home counselor.  Similar to Super Nanny.  I remember people posting recommendations here awhile back.  Something went wrong somewhere and it needs to be fixed ASAP. [/quote]

I am so glad you think you wouldn't tolerate the situation and that clamping down is the answer.  Don't you think we tried that?  Talk to me when you have a child in your life that might have a mental illness. It's nothing like the parenting books, or how we were parented, etc. could prepare you for.  It is heartbreaking, overwhelming, and awful.  And it is the judgement of people like you that make the whole thing that much more painful and isolating.   It's easy to armchair quarterback.  I did it myself before being in this situation.  And let me tell you it is humbling like you cannot imagine.  [/quote]

Excuse me but when he says "mean and cruel things" to you your husband etc. do you tell him to sit down and shut the fuck up, in exactly those words?  I'll bet you don't.  You said he gets "physical."  If he goes to lay hands on you, do you tell him "[b]Look buster touch me and I am going to lay you out with a tire iron.[/b]"  And make it clear that you mean it?  Does your husband?   You let your asshole son run away with the family for years and rather than taking responsibility for your parental ineptitude are whining and scapegoating him.[/quote]

NP. You need a refill on your meds, lady. I would suggest you (very deferentially, of course) ask your alpha-male father figure DH if he wouldn't mind getting your prescription filled on his way back from his mistress's. And do hide the tire iron in case your request offends him. Thankfully it's winter so you can probably hide the bruises he's given you under lots of clothing.[/quote]

- signed parent of four children with ADHD[/quote]

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