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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Damn, so many whores here.[/quote]

Yup, and there are lot of prudish cold fish here who look at their spouses as roommates and not lovers. [/quote]

And those whores apparently have their mouth permanently sealed with cocks and pussies since they can't talk to their partner and work out a solution.[/quote]

Right....except, before I cheated, I came to my spouse with my concerns and went to counseling about it (with him).  Tried to work out a solution for 2 years.  Things got worse.  Then he came out and said that sex and intimacy were not important to him and that 2-3 times a year was the best I had hoped for.  Should have divorced him then, but I didn't.  That was my fault.  But I had bought into this notion that marriage was forever and that sexual incompatibility was a poor reason to divorce.  I do not regret my affair but I do wish that I had the courage to leave before I had one. [/quote]

Question. If I am in this situation. Should I begin planning to leave? I thought I could live this way, but I cannot. Am I a time bomb?[/quote]

PP here.  I cannot tell what to do.  All I will say is that everyone has a point of clarity.  I hoped for the best while, in the back of my mind, doubting he would change. But when he out and out TOLD ME there would be no change, I checked out emotionally.  That was my point of clarity.  Once that happens, things will never be the same emotionally no matter how much counseling you endure or discussions you have.  At that point, IMO, your reasons for saving the marriage change.  I was no longer vested emotionally in the marriage but "fought" to save it for purely practical reasons. That led to even more resentment and primed the pump for my affair.  So in my case, once I was checked out emotionally, I should have left.  [/quote]

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