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OK, so what was the point of your post, OP?  You would clearly never be interested in the kind of woman whose values tend to align with being bought an engagement ring  by her huband-to-be.

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Just sad seeing what my friends are coerced into because they feel they have no choice.[/quote]

They DO have a choice: they could choose to date the kind of woman whose values DON'T align with an expectation that her husband-to-be will buy her a ring; they could date a woman like the one you chose.

YOU had a choice, and you are happy with your choice.  Your friends--who do not choose women like your wife--are most likely very happy with what they get in comparison, just as you are happier with your own choice than with how you imagine you would feel with what you see your friends are choosing.

See how that works?  Do you understand how offended you would feel if one of your friends, who chose a straight with stereotypical feminine qualities, wrote a post asking why anyone would want a woman with the qualities YOUR wife has (and then named some of the qualities your wife has, which are NOT stereotypical straight, feminine qualities)?

Or...maybe you AREN'T so happy with your own choice.  [/quote]

lol, it's the opposite of your final line. I'm over the moon with my choice, but I've seen their rodeo play out so many times to know that over time most of them are going to regret the choice they made.

The reason I addressed this question to men (though I'm perfectly happy to read responses by women of all sorts) is because so few of the men I know walk into their decisions on these sorts of things with eyes wide open, particularly in DC, where guys tend to sleepwalk into marriages they regret despite a universe of incredible women here to choose from and dating odds that are very much in their favor.

If someone made a post asking why anyone would want a woman with the qualities my wife has, I'd have fun writing a really smug, satisfied reply to it explaining in detail the rationale behind my choices and how perfectly they've worked out. I've always been the hand-raiser in class who enjoys showing my work.[/quote]

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