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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP sounds very very cheap. This is just a way of making excuses to not buy something expensive. Being cheap is really a red flag for other issues. If I was the girlfriend, I would not marry someone with this line of thinking. It's a preview of bigger issues to come. [/quote]

OP here -- you sound ridiculously white. Only a WASP would use a term like 'cheap' as a pejorative rather than as a positive. I'm damn proud to be cheap, and so is my spouse.

In the multiethnic area I grew up in on the west coast, before I got assigned to this hardship post, as a kid in school with jews, mexicans, salvadorans, koreans, filipinos, vietnamese, chinese south asians... we'd actually have competitions to see who was the cheapest. Cheapness was a virtue. None of us were poor; the area ranged from working class to upper middle class. We just had superior values. Only the white kids wouldn't participate, because their parents didn't raise them right.

I pity the WASP saddies who see 'cheap' as a negative.[/quote]

OP, cheapness is not a virtue. Frugality and being responsible with money are virtues, but cheapness is more akin to miserliness. If you don't want to spend money on a big ring for your wife, then don't, but don't sit there pitying your friends who are buying engagement rings as if they're being coerced. [/quote]

You've invented a magical distinction between cheapness and frugality that doesn't exist, because white folks like yourself wouldn't know cheapness nor frugality if it bit you in the ass. The closest you can come up with for a distinction is "I'm still frugal if I spend money on stupid things, but in ways that my fellow WASPs will see as consistent with their mores."

You're blind to what you're doing because you're a part of a community of the blind. Thankfully, you're becoming a smaller and smaller share of the population such that your inadequate sense of virtue will no longer be the 'default' by 2040.[/quote]

This kind of divisive political bullshit, on both sides, is what is tearing this country apart.  Maybe go get some counseling for your anger issues, OP.[/quote]

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