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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this will get better.  Set and maintain some KIND boundaries.  Think about how often you can see them, and then try to stick to that schedule for a bit.  When they come over, expect that they'll scoop the baby up and away from you.  If you need to take the baby back, just do it, and don't listen to any snide comments.

But.  At the same time, the posters saying you will one day WANT this kind of attention for your child are also right.

I have a 19 month old DD who was hard fought for.  When she was first born, having other people hold her made my skin crawl.  I just wanted to hunker down with my baby and no one else.  I felt this way for awhile.  I knew I couldn't (and shouldn't) keep loving people away.  I had to balance my discomfort with my knowledge that having loving inlaws was a really GOOD thing for my DD in the long run.

Now I am so so thankful my inlaws adore my DD so much.  It really is wonderful.  Grandparents are some of the few people who really think every little random cute thing your child does is JUST as cute as you think it is!  They still annoy me, my MIL is still asking for an overnight (which we are not ready for) but I just try to stay open and loving.  Without being a doormat.  I am now pregnant with #2, and I have a feeling my MIL's dreams of an overnight will happen once the new baby is here.  I'm glad I haven't alienated her and have kept her close, even though sometimes I wish they'd leave us alone for a few extra weeks.

Try to see the long game while protecting yourself now.  Good luck, it's not always easy.[/quote

Why won't you let your 19 month old daughter spend one night with her grandmother? I feel sorry for your kid and your MIL![/quote]

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