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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First of all, I have no intention of "filing a complaint" or raising issues of hostile work environment.

I would like to let him know he's out of step.

When the head of the agency says things like "This is Larlo Larloson.  Don't ask him to stop calling you ma'am because I've tried three times and he won't" you have a career problem on your hands.  It doesn't matter that he was raised that way.   It doesn't matter that it's a gesture of respect.  What he's doing is not in step with our agency culture.  Get it?[/quote]
[b]So just let him know, when he refers to you, you prefer he use your first name? [/b] If the head of the organization is aware of it, as you state above, what is there for you to report?  If the organization thinks the matter should be addressed it will do so.

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She's already done that, and he ignores it.  I would tell him straight out, "Look, I understand that you're trying to be respectful, and I appreciate that.  But you call your male co-workers and clients by their names, and call all your female co-workers and clients 'Ma'am.'  I would really prefer it if you call me by my name.  I've also noticed that some of the clients don't like being called 'Ma'am.'  Again, I know you're trying to be respectful."[/quote]

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