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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, of course we don't know the full story, [b][i]but nothing you wrote so far indicates that these women have been rude or exclusionary toward you.[/i][/b]  They just look different and have more money. But that alone doesn't really make people mean or unworthy of knowing.  Do you HAVE to have friends that only make within 10% of what you're making? It's perfectly possible to be friends with people who are in different life circumstances. I honestly feel that you are prejudging them and not opening up to a possibility of actually finding a connection there. You might enjoy their company but you've already closed your mind.  Reconsider?

On the connection note, I'm sure you know that the most value of private schools, apart from education, is in the social networks people form there, which can sustain themselves throughout their lives, college, first jobs, second jobs, professional networks etc.  Would it really be so bad for your son if you made an effort to integrate yourself into the social network dimension of private school? You never know when these connections may come up handy. [/quote]

I think it was both rude and exclusionary to reschedule their own in-group birthday gathering for the time when OP was having her own meet-up, and then change all their own RSVPs to her party from yes to no.  Once you've RSVP'd to a party, you don't change your RSVP because a "better" party comes along.  SO rude.  SO mean.  SO unkind.  Who would want to be friends with people like that, except for social ladder climbing?[/quote]

The way I read it was that OP invited people over for a casual coffee get together and the birthday luncheon was changed to the same day and time.

The birthday lunch had to be rescheduled for whatever reason (illness, who knows?) and it fell on the same day as OP's coffee gathering.

If it was you, and you had intended to go to a birthday lunch for a close friend that got rescheduled because someone was ill or child was ill, you are telling me you would skip a birthday lunch (once a year) to go to coffee? You already RSVP'd "yes" to a luncheon that got rescheduled. I can't say that I think this is a huge deal.

Also it happened 4 years ago and OP is still hanging onto that as her big slight.[/quote]

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