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Yeah, I don't really see black families poo-pooing private schools. "Good on you" is the message.
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Not my experience. Every person that I have shared my choice with who has some ridiculous critiscm has been Black. [/quote]

I would not use the word ridiculous, but our African American friends tell us to be careful about the teachers who may be prejudiced, the white, privileged children who may bully minorities, and the parents who may snub us because we receive FA.  Is it true that some parents will know we receive it?  I'm concerned about that.[/quote]

I would agree those particular warnings are not ridiculous per se. However, in touring schools and such (we are not IS parents yet) I have found there to be a good amount of diversity in the staff (so I am no more or less worried about finding prejudice teachers in private -- there are a ton of prejudiced teachers in public schools), bullying (again I haven't seen anyone speak of minority children being bullied because they are minorities), parents who snum because of FA (that seems to be a real possibility based on some of the heartless things I have read on DCUM).

I have been told that most schools do a very good job at protecting the financial privacy of all of the students. I've even heard some schools specifically ask that it not be discussed. I have also heard people make assumptions about who might be on FA (and often times those assumptions are wrong). There seems to be an underlying assumption that its the minority children on FA, when in reality many of the minority children's parents are paying full tuition. For this past admissions cycle we attended Sidwell's open house. During the open house they had a FA session. The majority of people in attendance where not minorities. We hung around and spoke to some of the parents. One was a White college professor, a White Maryland state government worker, and a White Physician Assistant. Yes there where minorities in the room as well but I wouldnt say the make-up was majority minority either.  Unfortunately, there is nothing the school can do about people's misconceptions. However, I would say this I personally could care less if people know we recieve FA. I believe in owning who you are and being true to yourself. If someone is going to snub me or my kid because we can't afford to pay the full cost, they can go right ahead because I don't want to be associated with those types of people anyway. [/quote]

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