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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
My sis and I are on different paths. She coasted for a while after college, worked for years at a movie theater, lived at home for free or nearly free, etc. Substantial drug use. But she now has an office gig making around 50k. She is 30, engaged to a guy making around 70k, and they live together. They are trying to buy a home, and apparently she is getting a big assist with her down payment from mom. I think 50k. She has gone from shopping for homes around $350k to $500k.

I am mid 30s, a lawyer in biglaw. married to a lawyer working part time at a small firm. HHI around 400k. We are semi-frugal but have kids to support, high child care expenses, etc. We are doing well. But, we are looking to move to a top school district in 2017 and don't have enough cash for a down payment yet.

I asked mom if she was going to match her gift to my sis with one to me, and she said no. I know my financial picture is better than my sis's, but that's because I put myself through law school, work harder, have been more responsible. Anyway, I just don't think it's right for a parent to make such a big gift to just one child. She wouldn't get my sis nice Xmas gifts and me crappy gifts or no gifts. She wouldn't leave my sis 60% of her estate and me 40%.

So, is this fair or unfair? (For the record, I would never have asked for help, just wondered if I could expect something). Would you subsidize your own kids unevenly like this?

Fascinating post.

She votes Democrat.

You vote, or should vote, Republican.[/quote]
Why would you say that? I have many friends who are drunks, divorced two or three times, never done anything with all their fancy degrees from big name schools and/or are living off family money who are hard core republicans. They would not compare favorable to OP's sister. At least she is getting her shit together. [/quote]

I think PP would say that, because [i]generally[/i] liberals are less likely to accept responsibilities for their poor choices. As in the troubles of OP's sister are her rich sibling's fault--&gt;resources must be diverted from the siblings to her, because she needs it (Who [i]needs[/i] a 500K house?), and it's all OP's fault anyway :lol: [/quote]

Yep. We are obviously generalizing, but OP's post indirectly contrasted two different political mindsets, responding to the question "Who owns the primary responsibility for one's well-being." Is it others (Democrat; like the sister) or the individual (Republican: like OP).[/quote]

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