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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm so sorry.  No advice, just wanted to commiserate.

One year into our marriage, my DH underwent emergency brain surgery, a second brain surgery, and chemo and radiation to treat a brain tumor.  His parents and sister were totally absent.  His dad and mom showed up once in the ICU after the emergency surgery and proceeded to fight with each other so loudly that the nurse had to ask them to leave (they subsequently divorced).  His dad came to visit once and made hurtful jokes about DH's weight gain (caused by massive doses of steroids to prevent brain swelling).  And they all basically left me alone to deal with every chemo and radiation appointment.  His sister was totally MIA and didn't even contact him.  I had to quit my job to take care of him.  After his second surgery, he almost died, and at one point he was incapable of speaking or forming a coherent sentence.  I was 30 years old and faced with the prospect of a husband who would either die or end up in a nursing home, and only my mom was there with me.  To this day, not one of them has the faintest idea or curiosity about what happened or the continuing medical issues he has (fortunately treatable with medication).  Everyone pretends like it never happened.  We also lost some of our closest friends, who just disappeared and never contacted us again.  I realize that we are extremely luck that my DH survived and is doing well, but my faith in other people is forever shaken. It's not something therapy can repair.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I wish you and your family the best -- stay strong, it will get better as time goes on.[/quote]

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