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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believe how much controversy this has generated!

I did think about donating. But I thought my son would probably be sad about donating something he got from his grandmother, and I didn't want to do it behind his back.  I guess I'll ask him and see what he says.  (BTW, the room is not "Pinterest worthy" in any sense, but this comforter would clash in a rather major way and overpower everything in the room, plus it's kind of violent and I'm not crazy about it becoming the main focus of his room).  I'm okay with the idea of it being a cuddle blanket in the playroom (even though it's sort of huge for that -- it's an ENORMOUS comforter), so will do that if he doesn't want to donate it.

I'm really surprised how many people were quick to dub me the world's worst DIL just for saying that I thought this was a weird gift that I really didn't want.  I would really like to be the "good" DIL who has a great relationship with her MIL, but my MIL's manipulative and erratic nature makes that impossible.  We did invite my FIL to live with us for quite a while after one of her particularly awful and violent tirades -- and I think I was a great DIL to him!  He stayed with us for a while, but then, because of his growing dementia, he kept forgetting how bad the situation was, and ended up  moving back in with her.

It's actually not her worst gift -- for a period of time, she kept sending my daughter reeaaallly expensive ballgowns and I just didn't know what to do with them.  Then there was the period where she would only send presents to her favorite one of our kids, and I had to deal with the inevitable tears over "why isn't there a present for me?" from the other kid.  I know it could all be much worse, so I'm really not complaining.  I was really mainly just curious if other people thought it was a weird gift, and to see what suggestions people had for how to deal with it.

And with that, I really hope this thread can now CLOSE...your point has been made, DCUM!  By a vote of 99 to 4, apparently a comforter is considered a good gift by most people.  So, get thee to a Bed Bath and Beyond and finish your holiday shopping!
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I'm sorry for your family and for the pile-on, OP. Those of us who actually *read the thread* knew that this gift--while harmless as an object--was coming from an abusive person, thus prompting you to seek feedback/a gut check. Good luck, and take care.

Read the thread, people. If you can't be bothered, at least only chime in if you are saying something NEW instead of piling on.[/quote]

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