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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm about to give birth to DC #2. My IL's are coming to stay with my toddler while I'm in the hospital (planned C), which is very kind and helpful of them. They are good grandparents, and I do appreciate the help.

However, last time I was in the hospital, they "took over" my house and did a ton of things I didn't want them to do, and it was really irritating and stressful. I am hoping to find strategies to avoid this dynamic this time around, because it made a very difficult time even harder.

1) Despite me telling her that the house was fully clean, my MIL felt the need to "re-clean" everything; including closets and bathroom cabinets
2) She put new sheets on our master bedroom bed, even though the bed was freshly made. I really didn't like that she went into our bedroom without permission, for absolutely no reason.
3) She "cleaned out" my clean/organized fridge and freezer, and even tossed some items that my mom had made for me because "she didn't know what they were." So when I was craving comfort food in the form of my mom's cooking, it was not available to me. (My parents are coming out a bit later this time, and that was the case last time, too.)
4) She re-washed all of the baby clothes--which I had already washed and hung in the closet according to size (NB, 0-3, 3 months, etc.) and even hung back on the corresponding, sized store hangers, and didn't re-size them, so everything was "unsized" in the closet I had worked really hard on. I even told her what I had done, but she said washing them two weeks out left them "dusty."
5) FIL took it upon himself to do all sorts of "projects" around the house, making things messy and disruptive when I just needed things to be quiet, clean and calm.

So I'm glad they are coming to help out, but I do NOT want any "extra" help. DH is on board to talk to them with me about this ahead of time, but I am having trouble thinking of how best to convey that I'm grateful for help, but I don't want any of this "extra stuff" to happen again.

Thoughts? Thank you![/quote]

1)  let it go
2  chill.  went into your room w/o permission?!  WTF
3)  Freeze the stuff your Mom sends AFTER it's labeled
4)  So what?  Just move the things back
5)  Have your DH talk to him

I highly doubt your DH is going to leave them completely unattended while you're in the hospital.  Which is good b/c you're clearly an ungrateful DIL who doesn't trust them[/quote]

STFU. That's all.[/quote]

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