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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suspect the people who react nicely to the MIL's actions have good relationships with their MIL's and vice versa.[/quote]

I have a great relationship with my MIL. That is *because* I set boundaries with her early on. She is definitely the type to "reorganize" without asking, but after she did that and I had a conversation with her, she stopped. Being nice/having a good relationship with your in-laws (or anyone) =/= letting them do whatever they want to do just because they have good intentions. Respect is a two-way street.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

It also means picking your battles. I have a fabulous relationship with my mother-in-law, unlike, I suspect, many of the posters here. She would not enter my bedroom without asking, but if she did and made the bed hike I was hospitalized I would understand that she had wonderful intentions and if I werent comfortable with it I would, you know, tell her. Op, have you TOLD your mother-in-law about the things that bother you? If I told mine, she would be horrified and rectify it immediately. You havent addressed that piece.

Fwiw, I have two children and my mother-in-law lived with us for a month after my second was born. As others have said, she will be far too busy with the older one to do this kind of thing. That said, if cleaning your house and making some meals offends you to such a high degree, I'm not sure your relationship with her stands a chance and I'm not sure what to tell you.[/quote]

Have you never dealt with a snoop before?  Have you never had someone go through your things without permission?  Not only when you were not at home but when you were literally hospitalized?

I get the impression that you think it's the *Op's* fault that her MIL is a snooper.  Or that the Op should just suck it up and deal with the fact that MIL goes through her stuff and goes into her medicine cabinets/closets and "organizes" them for her.  Are you the type of person who likes to "help" like that?  If so, maybe you should ask if your hosts appreciate that kind of help.  Some (many!) Do Not![/quote]

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