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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, and we wonder why women make 77 cents for every dollar a man makes.[/quote]

Who cares? Is your income the only way you measure the quality of your life? [/quote]

We should all care that a woman's work is not as valued as a man's. Don't you value your daughters as much as your sons? Don't you educate your daughters as much as your sons?[/quote]

The choose college majors that result in lower paying jobs.
Women take time off from the workforce which results in fewer raises and promotions.
Women take flexible jobs while children are small and exit the tracks to higher paying executive jobs.

So no, women's work is not valued less.

"But that's not fair! We should organize our society so that women don't have to take all of the childcare duties. We should try to make more women go into higher paying work (even though they frequently don't want to and aren't interested in it)." you say?

Well, nope, that's not going to work. Because:

1) When the rubber meets the road, women don't really want to have half of the financial burden for a household. And they frequently want to spend as much time as possible with their children. 
2) Women CERTAINLY don't want to be married to men who take care of the entire household and don't work. 
2) Men don't want to be married to angry, stressed out, resentful women.

Those are the constraints that seem small on the surface but CHANGE EVERYTHING.

But why is it such a problem? For women who want children, is giving up a serious career really such a bad sacrifice? Most of us are going to be healthy and working into our 70's. There is SO MUCH that a woman can do with flexible work, ramping up into more involved work as children get older in today's world.

I don't have a daughter, but of course I would value her as much as a son. I would want her to have a happy life with her own happy family and to be stimulated and fulfilled. We live in a world for the first time ever where that is possible.

But too many women are all about ego. They don't want a happy life. They want power and recognition and ego strokes. They want all of the glory and none of the responsibility. 
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You're trying to mask your 1950s views with 'life is long, you can live a fulfilled life after the kids are grown!' sentiments, but it's not working.

Why would a woman not want to bear half of the financial burden? Or more than half? Why would there be anything wrong with a woman who does?

Why should it only be a man who doesn't want to be married to a stressed out, unhappy person?

What's wrong with a man taking care of children and a household? Why can't a man want to spend as much time as possible with his children?[/quote]

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