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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these posts from both men and women display the exact same pattern---women riding the cock carousel with crazy sex with bad boys, UNTIL their fading youth drives them to "settle down" with dependable beta husbands who simply don't turn them on sexually.  And it's always the husband's fault.

Selfish women married to nebbishy husbands.  Ladies, you picked men to marry that you KNEW you could dominate, because that's the kind of marriage you wanted--to someone you could dominate.  But a woman isn't ever attracted to a man she can dominate so easily.

Even the one woman said she was far more turned on by an ex who pushed her up against a wall, she called him a "lout"--then says "but it wasn't rape-y."  Um, yes, it was "rape-y," and that's why it turned you on so much.   But the women know that if they marry a man that dominates them sexually, they lose all power in the relationship to the man, and in a marriage, that is to be avoided at all costs.  At least according to the typical "modern feminist liberated woman."[/quote]

But if this didn't happen--women sacrificing their dreams for stable nerds--99 percent of men in the DC suburbs would be married to their right hands.[/quote]

But they aren't really sacrificing their dreams.  They marry the nerds because that's what they want.  However, all of these women tend to be extremely neurotic.  Neurotic people cause dysfunction in their relationships and do not have an effective coping mechanism.  A well-adjusted woman would say "For marriage I need a stable guy.  Therefore, I have to do everything I can to ensure that we keep things as sexual as possible, which is not going to happen automatically with a marriage to a stable guy."  Instead, these women all basically say they're powerless to change anything because they'd rather be unhappy then do something constructive.  They NEVER say "the sexual problems are MY fault" or "primarily MY fault."  Or at least "I have the power to change how I feel and what my behavior is.   Even if I don't feel like it, I can be more sexually active to get things going."

One poster said she expects her husband to hire baby sitters, buy plane tickets, vacations, dinners, and what not as pre-conditions to any effort on her part to have enjoyable sex with him.  But even if he did all of those things--that NEVER works.  Because the lack of plane tickets, baby sitters, vacations, and dinners, is not the problem.  Her ATTITUDE towards her husband and her own sexuality is the problem.  Only SHE can change that.  NOTHING he can do will change that.  No gift he can buy will change that.  It will most likely have a counterproductive effect.  Women NEVER respect a man who has to "buy" their sexual favors.   Her misconception that the problem is her husband doesn't buy her enough gifts is neurotic.  But a very common sort of attitude.  She doesn't even perceive how neurotic her attitude actually is. [/quote]

This is simply not true. Have you ever heard of vacation sex? It's a saying for a reason. Get your wife away from the kids, encourage her to relax, put her in a lovely, romantic location, and you will have sex at least once a day. No kids though. That is imperative.[/quote]

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