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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]So, if the husband doesn't take responsibility for his wife's sexual desire, then the sex isn't going to happen?[/b]

[b]Who made that rule?  How is that equality?[/b]

Why aren't they both equally responsible for their own, and each other's, desires?

Just how damn SELFISH does a woman have to be, to expect to be feted with gifts, dinners out, plane tickets, flowers, courting, before she will deign to have sex with her....husband???

Anyone who really "knows" and "understands" women, which unfortunately requires a great deal of cynicism, also understands that when the need arises, or the whim arises, most can turn their libidos on or off like a light switch.

Typically, if a woman thinks she needs to have sex with a man she desires to get into a relationship with him, then she will do whatever it takes.   That's why so many guys experience a sharp drop off in variety and quantity of sex soon after cutting the wedding cake.  The sexuality has accomplished its primary purpose, landed the fish, so she turns the switch off.  EVERYONE knows this.

If a woman decides she wants to EAT PRAY LOVE she will easily generate sexual excitement for the most loathsome sorts of characters to have an affair with.  Because it's all, or mostly, IN HER HEAD.  Because she is quite frequently a total head case.

OP wife is the prime but typical example.  She ups the sex a couple of notches ONLY when she feels she "needs" to--because she wants to keep  him in the marriage--but just enough to keep him wanting more.  But it's totally conscious and voluntary and it's all her doing.  He's not doing anything to "build her desire" when she ups the sex.  SHE decides to UP the sex for her OWN purposes.  She uses the sex as a manipulative tool.

But this notion that women generally need men to do all kinds of things to "build the woman's desire" is utter b.s.   It's a flim flam designed to keep confused men on a short leash.

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No!  He doesn't have to!  If he wants to wait to have sex when until she initiates, that's perfectly fine!   No one has an issue with that. [/quote]

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