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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, a piece of advice for when you talk to your girlfriend -- don't rewrite history. Don't pretend you didn't have doubts about the relationship when you heard the news. She knows you did, she saw your emails with your sister. If you try to claim now that you never had second thoughts about marrying her, she'll know you're full of it and just trying not to lose her *right now*, which offers her no assurances about the future. You're better off owning up to your confusion, telling her you've been thinking a lot, and know you want to be with her no matter how you go about creating your family. At least then she'll has some reassurance that you're not just having a knee-jerk reaction to her leaving, and aren't just trying to maintain the status quo at her expense while you figure out your own feelings.

Because you're not, right? This isn't just about keeping her around while you figure out if you still want to marry her? You're in this 100%, even if it means no biological children?[/quote]

OP here. I emailed my sister saying I crushed that I may not have a child of my own DNA. My parents passed away young and my sister and I are the only ones to keep our blood like going. Despite how it may have sounded, I did not say I was questioning ending my relationship. That thought never crossed my mind. We were dealt a massive but infertility does not change that I'm still going to marry her.

I think there is some confusion. I was with her during the time. I only went out to a pre-planned event because we were both suppose to be out. She never let me know she was not going to her sisters that night. [b]I did not get drunk to the point of vomit. I was just loud and knocked a few things over. [/b]That woke her up and she fixed the stuffed I knocked over and we went to sleep. I was surprised she was there still.

She called last night and said she wants to talk over dinner. I'm nervous as hell. I'm also worried too. For a woman who rarely drinks ( same as me), she got drunk both Saturday and last night. I know she is hurting and I wish I can take that pain away. [/quote]
OP, I want to like you but your original post said this: 
[quote]"I threw up and she got up to help clean up."[/quote]
At first I thought you were just clarifying details in your later posts but you are definitely changing your story.  I know you love your girlfriend very much and want to marry her but it's a huge red flag if you can't even stick to one story on an anonymous board like this.  I wonder if you're really accepting your responsibility for your part in this story or just shifting things around in an effort to get us to like you.  [/quote]

OP here. I don't really care if you like me. I didn't word things correctly. I did throw up but that was after we went to bed. She was already sleep and did not help with that part.

I don't really care about this board. I came here to ask questions and 90% are saying I'm a horrible person or talking badly about her. We are bitter great people that have been through a lot together. I feel bad I got drunk but we did not go seperately after this. I left work and we spent all day and night crying and talking. Everyone has handle a situation wrong, so don't act like you haven't. Thank you for the posters that were actually helpful. We will get through this together. I'm not going anywhere.[/quote]

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