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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you seem to be asking for quite a lot. Your wife sounds like she is trying hard to meet you half way. She can't magically make herself have a higher sex drive, or orgasm more easily, or whatever it is you want from her. She loves you and wants to make you happy by having sex more often than she would prefer. Why does that make you feel rejected?? I am a SAHM to young kids and I want to have sex never. Right now it is all I can do to stay awake and have mediocre sex with my husband a couple times a month. I wish I could go back to being 25 and thin and well rested and horny all the time, but I can't. Your wife sounds like she is doing the best she can and you are the one rejecting her and going off to masturbate on your own. [/quote]

Thanks for your feedback.  You sound very similar to what my DW is probably thinking.  Question - would it be reasonable to ask that you set aside some time, once a week, to get into the mood, whatever that is, so that when you are having sex there is genuine passion and enthusiasm?  Like if your DH got kids out of house, or your read erotica, or did whatever it took?  Is there anything he can do to make it more pleasurable or is it truly just the situation you are in (it's really not him?)  Or is that too much pressure?

Appreciate the view from the other side.[/quote]

NP here-- I could try to do that, but it doesn't always work, and then DH gets cranky when it doesn't work or if my performance of enjoyment is not convincing enough.  And, of course, DH would have to cooperate by giving me that time, which he promises and never follows through on.

OP, have you tried morning sex?  It works a lot better for me.  I'm just too tired in the evenings, and by the time he puts down his precious laptop, it's already later than I wanted to stay up.  I hate having to nag DH into coming upstairs just so I can pretend to enjoy sex (that he'll later complain about).  It works a lot better to get a Saturday AM babysitter to take the kids outside.  If he lets me sleep in while he sees the kids off, then comes back upstairs, we do a lot better.[/quote]

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