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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, people are clearly hung up on how much help I have NOW, so let me clarify:

I have had a housekeeper and nanny for the past two months. Before now, a worsening of my child's congenital condition required me to be with him for the second year of life.  At the same time, student loan debt meant that I could not afford to be a stay-at-home mom.  So, I moved toa lower paying full time job that required only 40-50 hours a week, instead of my higher paying job that was basically 24 hours a day.  I worked out a deal with my new boss in which I telecommuted three times a week and DH worked out a deal with his boss in which he telecommuted twice a week.  Once a month, I would work a full week in the office.  Once a month, DH would work a full week in the office.

We could not afford a regular nanny.  No daycare could take my son because of his condition.  So, I worked full time and DH and I took turn caring for our son full time while the other was in the office.  Whenever we had a little accumulated,  we would hire a babysitter for a few hours so that we could frantically catch up on work.  After a year, our son was better, but we were broke and exhausted.  It became clear that I would have to monetize my credentials for the sake of our family.  So, I went back to my previous position at a hospital with better money.  The hours are terrible.  I routinely work 36-hour shifts.  But we are starting to put a dent in our debt.  Although I have a nanny and housekeeper, I cannot possibly delegate everything.  I am surprised by how hard it all still is.  And people in our lives cannot really understand because they are not in our shoes.

[b]I did not think I would have to add all of my personal business in order not to catch a backlash from some of the shrews on this board.  I should've known better. [/b] Thank you to everyone who has offered a helpful perspective.[/quote]

Well, goodness! I think that the details certainly make a material change to the lifestyle we all imagined you to be living. Working mom with a healthy toddler, nanny,  and housekeeper? BTDT without the nanny and housekeeper.

Working mom with an ill child, large student loans, and terrible hours at work? I have no idea how I'd feel about being in your shoes.  Probably overwhelmed.  [/quote]

Why do you need to know that a person's lifestyle is shit before you offer them a little human sympathy or keep it moving if you cannot be so gracious?[/quote]

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