Reply to If you are a woman with kids who divorced at 40+, how are things?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "If you are a woman with kids who divorced at 40+, how are things?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]sorry OP, I suspected an affair earlier, from the way he was determined to shut you down. I'm sorry you had to discover it, and that he did not come to you with it. It must be extremely painful to have tried so hard and made yourself so vulnerable to him, all the while he was with someone else and projecting a lot onto you so he would not feel the guilt and shame he inevitably feels.

there is no need to make any kind of decision now. Give yourself some time. Do you want to try therapy with him? Maybe it would help, maybe you are not 'there' yet. It is normal for your feelings to change dramatically during this time--moment to moment, from DTMF to having makeup sex, and back again. Try to maintain equilibrium in actions, even if your feelings are all over the place.

marriages can and do survive affairs and get stronger. But not all do. The most important thing is that you have maintained your integrity throughout all of this, and you will be ok regardless of whatever happens.

in practical terms, do not tell too many people about this. Its hard enough to know what to do, harder when you think others might be judging or will be voicing their opinions. No one else's opinions matters but your own (and your kids).

stay strong. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics