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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How exactly are the nieces being bullied? This the part of this thread that concerned me the most. [/quote]

[b]My 10 year old niece (the oldest) told me that they threaten to punch the girls if they don't do their chores for them. That they never get to play wii anymore. She said the boys push them then deny they did it. She also said they get ignored because the boys are always "fighting". I told my BIL this immediately and he sighed and got uncomfortable and said they were just adjusting. 
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I also know that dinner during the week consists of mac and cheese, french fries or tots and then a main dish which is always nuggets for the boys and sometimes for the girls. Its likely easier that way so there are no meltdowns. People will freak out on me but I don't think that is healthy for the girls at all, since I can't be concerned with what the boys eat apparently. [b]The girls used to do lots of activities on the weekends as well but now they stay home because the boys want to play video games. This is a huge reason why I am not about to just throw my hands up about this. If I exclude the boys, SIL will be upset and none of them will come.[/b] [/quote]

Where is your BIL in all of this?  Your nieces are going to need therapy if their dad doesn't start putting his foot down.  He has married into an extremely troubling family dynamic with his new wife and stepsons.

And your BIL can't keep making excuses that the new family needs adjustment time.  It is time for your BIL to step up.

He is lax about his daughters' safety too--those boys are not just irritatingly rude and arrogant, they are downright abusive to both your nieces and their mom.   :shock: [/quote]

I wish I had something nicer to say about these boys. I am sure they do have good qualities, rarely is a person all bad and as I said it isn't their fault, but they haven't given any of us a chance to get to know them.

My DH is going to talk to this with his brother. I originally posted this just vent because I was so frustrated over this. I now realize (thanks to all the good advice) that this is a deeper family dynamic problem and it has to be dealt with and DH agrees. [/quote]

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