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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You lost me at obese, OP.  [/quote]

Why? I genuinely want to know.

These children are obese. To the point where the older one doesn't fit in a normal dining room chair. Their mother has said that the pediatrician is extremely concerned with their weight and wants them on special diets and to get exercise beyond extra testing. I think part of not wanting to participate in activities with the other children is because they physically cannot.

Is it just the word? Should I have said extremely overweight? Called them fatties? Chunky? I thought obese was a good way to describe the situation.[/quote]

I am not the pp but I agree. You described them as monsters, and the next word was obese. That's why it sounded like it wasn't just their behavior that offended you, you were physically grossed out by them.

I am sensitive to this because I have a family extremely focused on weight who have all but disowned one set of relatives because they find it so sad and disappointing that they let their kids get so fat. Other people's appearance isn't your business even if they are children. She is aware and the doctor is aware. Hearing it from a skinny SIL isn't going to help.[/quote]

Well first it was a vent and if you read the thread you will see I go more in depth and even said I know it was wrong to vent about children but you have to understand what this summer was like. It was positively miserable for everyone involved and now I have to plan the next family gathering...

Trust me, no one in my family is extremely focused on weight. We are foodies who love to eat and we certainly indulge that love when we all get together. I have no once said a word to my SIL about their weight or need to eat only about 6 different junk foods. I did offer to make homemade nuggets and macaroni one night and she said not to bother, they likely wouldn't eat it then she told me about the doctor saying they were in danger because of their weight. "Hearing it from a skinny SIL isn't going to help." That flat out just hasn't happened.

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