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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Why should female hiring managers be MORE sympathetic to SAHM wanting to return to the workforce? [/b]They have a job to fill and need to do it with the best person available. That may not be the SAHM.

While it isn't a working versus SAHM debate, this thread clearly outlines one of the challenges of SAHM in our society. Many working moms have made that decision, that they don't want to be out of the professional workforce. Others don't have the choice.

However, when you have the choice and have opted for 13 years out of a professional situation, then the consequences are going to be the challenge to re-enter.  It isn't on the hiring manager to be sympathetic, it is on the applicant to put themselves in the position of being the absolute best candidate.

[b]The woe is me stuff is not befitting.
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I really don't think you are reading these responses closely enough; there are "hiring managers" on here saying they would ALWAYS hire a millennial over someone who chose to stay home for any amount of time. And, if you read the post, the OP is is venting that she cannot get an UNPAID position, so she understands she has to aim low. The problem here is that women are refusing to understand that a woman who has 15 years of experience and stayed home for 5 may have some experience over someone with 2 years of experience. One poster pointed out she has MORE of a vested interest to succeed than a millennial because she has expenses they don't, and they aren't burnt out.

I don't think there is a single SAHM that doesn't know what their choice does to their career, but women are pointing out the extreme bias that they have toward a woman or man who left the workforce as being weak, stupid, not hungry enough, lazy, out of date, and so on.

Some women have been helpful on these types of threads by giving practical advice over trying to shame them. And, the OP is clearly venting that she cannot work for FREE, and yet some women like pp can't help but sink their fangs into her.

And, for every "feminist" who says this is her due, then you are not a feminist. [/quote]

NP here.  Well, the thing is feminists want men and women to be treated equally.  The reality is that a man who drops out of the workforce for 13 years would face the same difficulty getting back in.  This actually isn't a women's issue.

If you are going to take a decade off and then try to get back into the workforce at an older age with so many years off, it's not going to be easy -- even for unpaid positions.  A 45-year-old man who was out of work for 13 years (even by choice) will have a hard time competing -- even for unpaid internships -- with a 24-year-old.

Some PPs are harsh, but this isn't about SAHM.  In some ways, it's more of an agism issue because even a 45-year-old man or woman who was laid off for less than a year will have a tough time competing against younger applicants (unless they're in an in-demand field).  That is why people always say:  It's easier to get a job when you already have one.  The one exception to that rule is recent grads.  It sounds like OP is competing against recent grads.

OP, work your network.  Do you still have contacts from when you were working 13 years ago?  That's where you need to focus your energy.  Find someone you know, someone you've worked with (even if it was a long time ago), and reach out to them for opportunities.[/quote]

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