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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait so should OP have asked her on her last date POLITELY, hey we are on date 4.  Are we going anywhere with this relationship if not its OK, but I'd like to know?  I keep hearing that is way to weird to ask a girl that soon.  But you guys are saying be direct.[/quote]

Not necessarily like that. But you can acknowledge that "the fourth date" for many people is loaded with meaning and is often a decision point for people[b]. You can just say that you're having a good time and would like to continue to ask her out, taking it one date at a time. For you, it's pretty simple: you ask someone out if you enjoy their company.  If things veer to the friend-zone or more romantically, both outcomes are ok. [/b] (Someone out there is probably better at imagining how to say this than I am. :))[/quote]

I think you said it very well. It's unreasonable, I think, to ask for a commitment from someone you've been on 4 dates with - especially if you feel like you won't get immediate confirmation that they want the same thing. That said, it IS ok to talk about where you see things going at that point- are they looking for a long-term relationship? Are you? Could you invite them to be your date somewhere to an event with friends/coworkers, or is that too much? [/quote]

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