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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not holier than thou. It's more like we come from different backgrounds. Different, not hierarchically ranked. It's like marrying into a different culture or religion. The question is about the effect of the difference NOT whether one person is better than the other because of the difference. 
Also, there is no spell check on DCUM. Does anyone type their responses into word, spell check and then cut paste into the DCUM box? If not doing that makes me not detail oriented then... I guess you have me pegged.[/quote]

I'm the international PP - many of my friends married people from other nationalities and some don't live in their home country. Unless you are somehow intolerant of different religions, languages, foods, you should be fine. The most important aspects of your life together would probably be parenting and finances. You need to be on the same page for those, and that has nothing to do with different backgrounds! My parents come from opposite sides of the globe, had wildly different upbringings, met when they had NO common language, yet were absolutely on the same page for raising kids and managing a household.

However, I'm sensing that all this is a smokescreen for something else - the fact you're just not that into him. It's a perfectly valid feeling, OP. You don't need to cloak it with something else.

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Totally into him. Worried that being totally into him is clouding my judgement and our differences will be more significant down the road.[/quote]

Well, then, you'll be fine. Did I tell you I married a man of a different culture who is 18 years older than me? We did not grow up with the same references (movies, books, food, standards, blah blah blah). Yet we are open-minded and flexible. If you are like this too, don't worry.[/quote]

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